I am a HUGE believer in this. One of the things that I'll always remember is my friend, Robyn, telling me when her kids were younger that they enjoyed hanging out with me because I talked to them like people, not kids. That has always stuck with me & it makes me feel all warm & fuzzy on the inside. I always have conversations with the kids surrounding me.
I have even told Goose that even though some of the stuff that flies out of the girls mouths is so ridiculous to him, listening to them will go miles. He does have a difficult time with that & that's why at the end of the day, I probably know more about his kids than he does. I talk/listen to them about the little stuff, the big stuff & everything in between.
I know that Goose has an especially hard time when Trouble talks about getting this tattooed & this pierced. It drives him nuts. I've told him that he just needs to just let her talk about all the things that she WANTS to do. Just because she talks about doing it, doesn't mean that she's going to be doing it because she's not 18 & she doesn't have her own money. I told her that when she's 18 & has her own money, she can do whatever she wants to herself but that she has to remember that anything she does to her body, will be there for the rest of her life. I explained to her that the removal process of tattoos is worse than the tattoo so she needs to put plenty of thought into it. As for piercings, I showed her the mark I have on my nose from my nose ring that has not gone away & will not go away.
I give her the tools/advice to make the right decisions & I really think being able to talk to one another helps.