My stepdaughter can be beautiful & kind & caring & loving but sometimes, she lets this demon take over her and it's so hard watch it & to take the brunt of her blows. Let me backup, when I came into the picture over four years ago, I was entering a dysfunctional situation - a single dad raising two pre-teen daughters who's mother came & go as SHE pleased. Goose trying to make up for the girls not having a mother pretty much let them do whatever they wanted & without consequences.
The girls hated me at first, Trouble more so then Sunshine. Trouble had just turned 12 & with thoughts of how terrible I was from her mother (who didn't know me from Adam), she had a difficult time. But I fought my way in & have been more of a mother to her than her real mother. I choose that role, I wanted to help these girls & be there for them.
Trouble & I have had our ups & downs like most mother/daughters do & it's so hard for me & her. Her outbursts were more than just typical teenage episodes so I had to give Goose an ultimatum, she goes to counseling & we figure out what is going on with her as I truly believed that she was misdiagnosed with ADHD or I'm gone cuz with every outburst she had, I died a little more as I felt like I was just getting stabbed over & over again. He finally agreed to get her tested.
We found out on Friday that she, in fact, does not have ADHD. She has an anger/impulsive/anxiety disorder. The anger, from her childhood & her relationship with her mother, I'm sure. Impulsive just like her father. Anxiety from her poor decisions that come with her anger & impulsive behavior. At this time, we will not medicate her, we're going to allow her a chance to work out those issues with her counselor as the medication would be a form of pills for autism & she wouldn't be able to be on those when she joins the Navy like she wants to.
I'm hopeful that she can work through these issues on her own. She has the power, she has the control to make herself a better person & be the beautiful, kind, caring, loving girl I know she can be.
Without sounding like I'm bashing general practitioners, be sure to deal with a counselor when trying to figure out if your child has some kind of "mental disorder". I really believe that the ADHD diagnosis is thrown out there WAY too much & it may or may not be that. Trouble actually told me yesterday that many of her classmates have been misdiagnosed with ADHD & I can totally see that. Just make sure that your child is taken care of & they are diagnosed correctly. & that, my friends, is the end of my public announcement. : )