So, back in the day, there was a linkup about weekly lessons. I really liked it but since it has crumbled & the linkup is no more. :( I really liked doing it so I'm going to continue doing it, join me!
I've learned...that although hard, being the bigger person prevails. Sunshine has been having some issues with her mother responding to any messages or phone calls & I finally had enough & sent her a message just simply saying that she needs to respond to her daughter or Sunshine will eventually just give up on having a relationship with her. Of course, she took it as an attack & sent me back a long message & one part got me: "i am going to do what i have always done when my kids threw temper tantrums....walk away". I cannot tell you how much I wanted to respond to just that sentence. A lil background: she's not been around enough to parent either of her daughters it's been Paul & his parents & then me. I came into the girls' lives when Trouble was twelve & Sunshine was eight (they are now nineteen & fifteen) & I've been a more permanent fixture in their lives than their mother even including the many months that Trouble & I didn't talk. She's never been a parent, she has not raised these girls so it's just so easy for her to "walk away". However, I did not sink to her level & it prevailed, Sunshine was happy that I said something to her mother & then she asked me last night if I would be her mom. I told her that like Yondu said to Peter Quill/Starlord in Guardians of the Galaxy: "he may be your father but I'll always be your daddy" except put in "mother" & "mommy". She smiled & went on her way to bed. Being the bigger person does pay off, everyone sees it & it's better for me & the girls so that's the way I'm gonna be...until Sunshine reaches the age of eighteen, then I'm gonna tell their mother off! ;)
I've learned...that even though I have the plan to go to bed early, it rarely happens. I left my grandparents' early last night to get home to get into bed. Well, I did this, that & the other thing & next thing I know, Paul is snoring beside me & it's 11:00 p.m. Ugh! Maybe tonight...but probably not as I'll be meeting up with my bestie, Kim, for supper & some shopping. Tomorrow, perhaps?